Welcome to day 1 of the Fetish Explorer blog! In this blog, I'm going to take requests for different fetishes and post guides and links of interest about them, to help you enter this fetish for yourself or just satisfy your need for more pics, videos, and direct interaction with it!
The first fetish I'm going to cover is male maids, houseboys, errand boys, etc. I personally have over three years of experience in being this, both with and without fetish connotations. I will cover a few topics here, starting with how to find a girl, what this type of relationship can involve, and how to get the most out of it.
How to find a girl to serve
Obviously, when you are looking for something like this, it is dangerous and unacceptable to just ask pretty girls on the street if they want a slave or a free housekeeper. This type of relationship requires a building of trust, and it requires a desire from the female party to engage.
1. Craigslist -- This has been my most successful source, in the times that I have been searching I have always received numerous responses and I found two fantastic situations from here.
- Post in the "Strictly Platonic" section because a true houseboy does not receive nor expect sexual favors. If you are reading this, I trust that you truly just want to be used and do what your female boss says, so post strictly platonic.
- Don't be generic or forgiving in your post just to get replies. Be honest with yourself. I only want to do this with a beautiful young woman, so I always post something like "Beautiful Women 25-30: Would you like a free housekeeper/errand boy?". There are two benefits to this: 1. You won't get posts from girls that are not at least semi-attractive and 2. The type of girl that would reply to a post only for "beautiful women" most likely is full of confidence and has some dominant tendencies.
- Once a contact has been made with a girl via email from craigslist, the best way to communicate is IM. It is faster, more personal, and still completely safe. Be honest about your expectations and speak with respect -- she is after all your future boss.
2. Myspace
- This is more difficult because you are sending requests to specific girls, where as craigslist allows the interested girl to make the first step.
- Search only in your local area and be specific about your requirements (smoker, height, marital status) so that you don't waste your and her time. Only email girls you would 100% commit to.
- Send a polite and specific message. Make the title something like "Can I do your homework?" or "Why do you wash your own dishes?". In the message, briefly introduce yourself and state how you found her "I am a __ year old male and I have a submissive personality. I am trying to find a girl that will allow me to work for her doing chores and errands, and I found you when I was browsing for girls near me".
- Don't write more than once. If they don't respond, they aren't interested. It helps to note their situation so you can be more accurate in your message. Don't offer to do their homework if they are not a student.
Ways you can be of use (Chores you can do)
I speak from experience on this topic, and it is very good to provide the interested girl with a full list like this as soon as they are "hooked" on the idea. Hopefully, they will go through the list and make mental notes about how valuable this could be to them and it may spark new ideas based on the specific situation. Here are some of the basics:
1. Washing dishes, putting away
2. Laundry
3. Vacuuming
4. Car Wash/Vacuum
5. Grocery Shopping
6. Returning items to stores
7. Household goods shopping
8. Renting movies/Returning movies
9. Taking out trash
10. Reorganizing Apartment/House
11. Making bed
12. Organizing Closet / Shoes / DVDs
13. Loading Music on your computer
14. Research on anything
15. Homework (from school)
16. Dusting / Cleaning blinds / windows
17. Changing light bulbs
18. Cooking
19. Changing furnace filter
20. Mowing Lawn / outdoor maintenance
21. Organizing/cleaning garage
22. Cleaning/polishing shoes
23. Drop off/pick-up dry cleaning
24. Make appointments for hair/make-up/pedicure/manicure/massage; drive you & wait
25. Watch apartment when you leave / feed pets
26. Mail packages / pick up mail (if you have a p.o. box)
27. Get gas for your car
28. Go for Oil changes / car repairs
29. Be personal driver if you go out for a 'night out' - drop off/pick up at door, wait outside
30. Drop off / pick you up at airport
31. Get books from library
32. Maintain calendar for you
33. Take notes / reminders
34. Assemble new furniture
35. Cleaning bathroom
36. Pick up from store : paper towels, dish detergent, water, nylons, make-up, etc.
Other Options:
My outfit: No requirement, business casual, business professional, suit & tie, custom
Timing: Set schedule, on-call 24/7, e-mail/text/call when needed, minimum hours per week
Professionalism: Call you Miss, Ma'am, Princess, etc..; Act normal; kneel/bow when entering, custom
This is a pretty complete list for my interests, but there may be other things you are interested in. Do not give in to the temptation to "leave things out" if you think it may scare her. If they are your fetish and you can't explore it with the girl you have found, you will not be satisfied in the long run.
How to get the most out of being a houseboy
Time. Time is key - because unless you prove yourself and your new boss trusts you, you will be doing miniscule and online tasks only. If you ever do get to the point of cleaning inside the house or even having a key, you will find true joy. Do not ask for rewards, and do not do anything that warrants punishment. I always make it clear in the beginning that her action never needs apologies nor explanations. If I have just cleaned her car and picked up groceries and she wants to slap my face or yell at me for not being faster, that is completely acceptable. If she wants to take off her dirty knee-high stockings and hand them to me as a reward, that is up to her as well. She is always free to take out any frustrations on me, to punish me for no reason, and to reward me if she sees fit - but the most important thing is that everything is always 100% up to her and there are never any requirements for her.
If this is your fetish, there is nothing more satisfying than feeling completely used, abused, and unappreciated by a gorgeous woman. I have been lucky enough to experience this feeling on many occasions, such as receiving a 3:00 AM text message to find sushi at the grocery store and leave it at her front door ASAP. Or washing, waxing and vacuuming her car in 100 degree heat while she took a nap in her air conditioned apartment. Or writing 5 three-page essays while she slept and receiving a dirty pair of pantyhose to wash as a reward.
These relationships always get better with time. Eventually, you will be tossed aside when she finds a committed relationship or has no more use for you, but you realize your place. NEVER keep your boss waiting for more than 5 minutes after she texts, emails, IMs, or calls you with a task; regardless of the time. If you will be unavailable for any period of time, always make sure she is aware. If I plan on attending a movie or have a meeting for work, I always let my boss know by sending a text saying "I was planning on going to a movie at 7:05, but if you need something I will not. Please let me know Princess.". I find that about half of the time I am free to go, and others I will either receive a task or just be told to be available instead.
Feel free to email me (fetishblog@gmail.com) with questions, comments, or to just chat. AND, if you are in the Raleigh, NC area and would like a houseboy....I'm currently available :-)
